Behaviors That Reduce Attraction
You should be aware up front of the behaviors that men exhibit which turn off a woman’sattraction mechanism. As we progress, you will be given alternatives to these behaviors and
ways to avoid demonstrating them.
- Clingy/Needy behavior: The root cause of this is insecurity. Any actions that
tell a woman that you are going to smother her or be an insecure wimp are
sure to turn her off. Things like calling her several times a day, or calling
several days in a row, or acting jealous of her friends. If you threaten her
freedom, she’ll run from you.
- Trying too hard: If you’re over-eager or too zealous, she gets suspicious.
- Bragging/loud mouthing: What makes you think she will be attracted to you
when you brag? If you let her find out what you’ve accomplished a bit at a
time, she’ll want to know more. Don’t give away all your mystery.
- Angry or violent temper: You must have self-discipline over your emotions.
A woman can’t trust a man with a short fuse; she can only live in fear and
intimidation from him.
- Insensitivity: Meaning your inability to tell when you’re teasing and playful
with her as opposed to mean and insulting.
- Boring: This really translates into being unable to show women your
personality, most often because of shyness.
- Pushy: Getting your way by coercion. Some men whine and push their way
into getting a woman to have sex with them, and then they wonder why it’s
not fulfilling or lasting.
- Passive and indecisive: You have to be able to demonstrate some
leadership qualities. Decisive, dominant behavior shows you are an Alpha
Man, and can provide when the time comes.
- Inability to listen: I’m sorry … what were you saying? To keep a woman’s
interest, you must demonstrate the ability to pay attention and not stare at her
nipples.
- Acting like a pig: There are men out there that think if they behave as
coarse as possible, a woman will just jump at the chance to rehabilitate him.
Guess again.
- Being obvious about sex: Yes, we all want sex. Even women. But if you
come across with this agenda written on your forehead, you’ll strike out
before ever getting to bat. You must learn how to be subtle and let her
wonder.
- Impatience: If you are too eager, you will come across as having no self-discipline.
Relax.
- Defensiveness: Guys tend to get pissy and defensive in response to a
woman’s moods and negative behaviors. What she will respond to is your
self-discipline and your ability to keep your reactions under control. (More of
this in the section on “Arguments.”)
- Negativity: A bad attitude is a turn-off for all women.
- Not Providing: This covers stinginess, being cheap, etc. You don’t have to
be giving up money to her on every date, but if you plan a meeting at a
restaurant, you better be prepared to pay. This is why you plan meetings that
are out of the traditional stereotype of “dating.”
Delayed Gratification – Go SLOW
You can’t go into dating with an expectancy of getting, or especially getting quickly. It’s a
lot like an investment plan: You put a little faith money into a few stocks that you think look good
(after researching those stocks adequately, of course.) You check in from time to time to see
what the return is. Some are losers, and you promptly drop those from your portfolio. Some will
appreciate and give you a little return, and those are the ones you invest more in when you see
the action. Put your faith money where you can, and remember to never invest more than you
can afford to lose. Doing this builds a pipeline of dating potential that you have available to
explore.
People avoid commitments. This is why most salespeople are not good, because they
rush for a commitment from their customer before they’re ready. If you try to get a commitment
from a woman too soon, you will raise subconscious defense mechanisms in her. She’ll start to
feel closed-in and smothered. Do not threaten her freedom.
As long as you are initiating the next step (from getting the phone number to getting the
date to getting a kiss, etc.) you can’t go too slow for her. If you can go even slower than she
does without losing her attraction and trust, you have won 90% of the game. She’ll be pursuing you.
Remember: It’s better to go too slow than too fast.
Role Models
I’ve been asked many times in the past to point out role models that would help men
understand by example what they should emulate when it comes to behavior. There are a few
that have stood the test of time, and when you watch them in action, you understand why. Real
men are timeless, even if they sometimes appear chauvinistic in their context.
The first is the ultimate example: James Bond. A fictional character, true, but the
various actors who have portrayed him over the years have found that essence of his allure and
brought it to life. Sean Connery was perhaps the best example. Some of James Bond’s defining
male characteristics are:
- Confidence – Can you think of anyone exuding more confidence? He never looks
uncertain, and even when he isn’t sure, he projects an aura of confidence.
- Humor – When he screws up or fails, he always has a clever comment to pull a smile
out, even when tied to a slab with a laser slicing towards his crotch.
- Sophistication – James knows his stuff when it comes to food, perfume, wine, foreign
languages, technology, you name it. He doesn’t jump in bragging, either. He waits
until the time is right to let you know you’re not getting one past him.
- Anger – I’ve said it before: Anger is a good quality to demonstrate from time to time.
I’m not talking about physical violence, but the ability to call a woman on her childish
or disrespectful behavior when it’s needed. You never hear James saying, “Yes,
dear.” You must be able to demonstrate appropriate anger. There must be a penalty
for violating your rules. Get mad when appropriate! Women respect controlled and
justifiable anger.
Another good example of male behavior is Indiana Jones. Again, he’s another fictional
character, but this one is rooted firmly in Harrison Ford’s presentation. Some of Dr. Jones’
attraction qualities are:
- Confidence: As with James Bond, he’s willing to just jump in the game and do
something when the time comes, not wait around to be told what to do. When he’s
got no idea, he grabs a horse and his whip and hee-ya’s right into the thick of it.
- Humor: Another of Indiana’s abilities was to find and enjoy the humor in a situation.
- Anger: Just like Mr. Bond, when a woman acts like a princess or pisses him off, he’ll
let her know. Remember the second movie, when he walked out on Willie (Kate
Capshaw) when she was throwing herself at him? He had the balls to turn her down.
If you’ve seen any of the old movies (Pre-1965), you’ll notice how differently men are
portrayed there. They can be very two-dimensional at times, but they always derive their
characters from the essence of masculinity. When you hear James Dean, James Cagney,
Humphrey Bogart, you don’t think wussy; you think strong, confident men. Of the older role
models, none stands out as being better developed than Cary Grant. If you’ve seen him at
work, you’ve seen a master.
- Confidence: Again, the hallmark of male attractiveness. Cary never looked like he
was going to give up or fall back on crying on a woman’s shoulder. See him in “North
by Northwest” as he runs across country to discover why his life is in danger. And he
still finds the time to hook up with Eva Marie Saint on a train.
- Humor: Cary has some of the best banter with his leading ladies, and he’s sharp and
on the ball. He knows how to keep conversation crackling with fun and wit. And you
sense that he’s not just reciting a script – this guy owns it.
There are others, to be sure. Clint Eastwood in most of his man-with-no-name westerns
comes to mind. Judd Nelson in “The Breakfast Club” shows just how calling a woman on her
behavior works. Tom Cruise in “Top Gun” is another excellent example, with his cocky attitude.
“Back to the Future” is another good case, almost deceivingly simple in its message.
The traits in common for these role models are fairly obvious, and they will be explained
in complete detail through this program. Of course, these role models should not be imitated;
they should be emulated. What this means is that you do not start ordering vodka martinis
(shaken or stirred), carry a Walther PPK sidearm, and wear tuxedos when you go bar-hopping.
You should seek to recognize the behaviors that these men exhibit, understand why they work,
and then use this essence for yourself. Own it. Use these traits to enhance your approach and strengthen your foundation. Emulate the masters: James Dean, Sean Connery, Cary
Grant,
John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford, etc. Yes, they were a bit sexist in their day, but
they displayed the stoic example of male posture: Their personas said they didn’t give a damn if
the woman they were with wanted them or not, and that is why they were admired by men and
women alike.
The traits that run contrary to the self-confident male qualities I’ve noted stand out in
stark comparison. I won’t cover them in detail, since we’re here to focus on what to do, not on
what not to do. Suffice to say that you should watch out for any actions that undermine a
presentation of cool calm confidence. The examples of anti-male role models are out there in
droves today. While I enjoy the television show “Scrubs” as a funny diversion, the men on that
show are a pitiful example of masculinity, openly backing down from any kind of confrontation
with a woman as if she owns their balls. They all act as though the scariest thing in their lives is
to stand up to disrespectful and demeaning behavior from the women in their lives. Any
entertainment that addresses women as superior by virtue of sexual power is a bad choice.
Send Mixed Signals
Women don’t feel attraction to men who are too consistent. If you are consistent all the
time, you’re demonstrating your intention to prove yourself as a good mate and husband, a
possible father to her children. To stir up her passion and lust, you must learn how to be
inconsistent at the right times and send her mixed signals so that she is not entirely sure of your
intentions. A predictable man is boring, and boring does not make her attracted to you. (I hope
this isn’t news to you.)
Some deliberate mixed signals:
- Acting aloof from time to time on a date. Go silent and ignore her
occasionally.
- Show up unexpectedly after telling her you are busy and can’t see her
- Kiss her or hug her, then push her away to do something else.
- Tell her you like what she’s wearing, then change your mind on it later.
- Memorize her phone number, and make sure she knows you have. Then
complain to have forgotten it and ask for it again later.
- Occasionally do things that are out of character, such as choosing a chick
flick to go see, or go to an offbeat restaurant. Defy her expectations.
Contradictions like this show that you have an unpredictable side, and that while she
may have thought she had you figured out, she doesn’t. Be careful not to do this too frequently
or too radically, or else you’ll start to look a little crazy. Just every so often is enough to give
things a healthy uncertainty.
Creating attraction is a blend of opposites, acting firm and flexible, attracted and aloof,
interested and disengaged. The best analogy of the way to treat your dating relationship with a
woman is the way you would carry a full mug of hot coffee. You can either walk very slowly and
very carefully, trying not to jostle the contents too much (which takes forever), or you can walk
at a normal pace, only you must walk with irregular footsteps so that you don’t set up a sloshing
motion that spills the hot coffee down your arm. If you’ve ever tried to carry an open container
with a lot of fluid in it, you know that walking at a regular pace will start a feedback pattern
where each step gets the liquid splashing back and forth until it spills. Your irregularity will work
the same way, keeping the cup of attraction full, and her engaged.
Your Appearance and Presentation
The areas of personal attention are:
- Hair
- Nails
- Mouth
- Skin
- Sounds and Smells (hygiene)
- Fashion: Clothes, shoes, etc.
- Overall Fitness
- Posture (physical and mental) – projection of inner game, and Mannerisms –
grace/suave, poetry in motion
Your appearance speaks volumes about you, so much so that you need to be very
concerned with this single area the most when it comes to your external game. Do not
misunderstand this to mean that women will evaluate you solely on your appearance. However,
you will put yourself far ahead of the competition if you attend to the basics of your appearance.
Understand: Your objective isn’t about trying to turn them on with your looks as much as it is
about not turning them off. You want to avoid giving her the wrong impression before you get
a foot in the door.
Not only this, but you will also raise your own level of self-confidence when you are
looking and feeling your best. What you are looking to accomplish is to give yourself the edge
over any of the guys who think that their best outfit is a 49’ers sweatshirt, baseball cap, and
jeans.
Studies have been done to show that when people in the workforce wear dress attire
(suits, ties, dresses, etc.) they have a higher productivity. This also ties in greatly to your selfesteem.
For example, is it possible to feel bad when you’re dressed in a tuxedo? Not usually.
We feel significantly better about ourselves when we’re able to look our best. It sends a
message to your subconscious – and hers – that you are worthwhile and noteworthy.
I will add a caveat here: Women are less concerned with your appearance than how you
make them feel. You could look like a slob, but still have a personality that draws women in like flies. The reality, though, is that people do often make judgments based on initial appearances,
and to get a chance at the starting line, your appearance should give you that initial opportunity.
A Shelby Mustang may outrun any vehicle on the street, but I bet if you had one you’d wash and
wax it with exacting care. You should demand no different for yourself.
Let me define a term I’ll use in this section: Affectations. Affectations are those things we
wear or do that are a bit on the extreme side, and can sometimes come across with a certain
amount of pretentiousness. They seem exaggerated in the overall makeup of a person. For
example, I live in San Francisco, CA, and there are many people who live in the Bay Area that
have the counter-culture look: body piercings, tattoos, pink hair, and every other imaginable
adornment. Most of the time, these people tend to come across with a “Hey! Look at me!”
appearance. While I’m not judging or condemning them in any way, I feel it’s necessary to point
out that if you are going to reflect your personality in your appearance this strongly, you will risk
limiting your options. The grooming and personal hygiene that I’m proposing here supposes that
you are not of the radical appearance variety, and that you want to make yourself as
presentable as possible. I’m asking that you think over your style and make it your own,
whatever it may be, and make your choices based on your goals – not on a need to make a
statement.
Hair
This covers all areas where you have hair – and shouldn’t have hair. Starting with your
melon, the hair on your head should be cut neatly. If you choose to have long hair, so be it,
however, you should understand that when you make certain choices for yourself, you are also
making choices about who will be attracted to you. If your goal is to leave your options open,
you should accept a certain flexibility in your personal grooming standards. This means that
your green hair, pony tail, or Mohawk will likely reduce the available group of women who will be
interested in you. For maximum flexibility, you should consider a reasonably short cut, trimmed
neatly over the ears. If your hair is thinning, you might decide to go with the super-short or even
completely bald look.
To address baldness, many men have hair loss as they get older, and it is a source of
some concern, since this can impact a man’s self-confidence when he feels that he may appear
older than he actually is. The negative associations with baldness are numerous, including the
concept that women are not attracted to bald men. The Truth of the matter is that women are
attracted to any man who can make them feel good about themselves. Baldness is even an
asset for many women who are looking for a sign of maturity in their men, not boy-toys.
Remember how Patrick Stewart (Jean-Luc Picard on Star Trek) was the hot ticket for women for
years? He is bald, but he carried himself with such self-confidence and sophistication that he
earned raves from women who watched the show just for him.
Your overall hairstyle should simply make you look your best, long or short. The best
haircut is one that doesn’t look like you tried too hard. To find out what look would be best for
you, go to a woman hairstylist and get her advice, then let her try it out on you. Use a good
shampoo and conditioner to keep it soft, and watch for dandruff.
Mustaches and beards are stylish, and I’ve seen just as many polls that say women like
them as don’t like them. My personal feeling is that facial hair can be irritating to a woman when
you’re kissing her, so I stay clean-shaven most of the time. Whatever you choose, be sure to
keep it neat and trimmed, whether it’s a soul-patch or a goatee. I do know for a fact that women do not like unkempt and shaggy facial hair, especially when it makes you look like a lunatic
vagrant.
Hair on the rest of your body should be severely scrutinized. You should not have
excessive hair on your back or neck, even if it requires waxing from time to time. When it comes
to your nose and ears, you should trim away all unnecessary hair. Also, your eyebrows should
not meet in the middle, if you can possibly avoid it. Most women do appreciate chest hair, more
often than not, so don’t be too concerned about that area. As for your nether-regions, you
should trim your pubic hair to a manageable level as well. Not only for good hygiene, but it can
actually make your plumbing look a bit longer if it’s not obscured.
Nails
Your nails play a significant part in the overall appearance of your hands, and they do
reflect your personality to some degree. For maximum flexibility, nails should be kept trimmed
neatly to within 1/16 of an inch or shorter. Any longer than this and you tend to raise more
questions than you answer. If you are a chronic nail-biter, you may want to look into breaking
this habit, as it tends to make your fingers look ragged and not very soothing to touch. Keep all
nails free of dirt. You may even consider a manicure – just be sure to skip the nail polish. Your
toenails should be kept trimmed and neat at all times.
Mouth
Your mouth should be as appealing as you can make it, after all, you want her lips
spending a great deal of time here, don’t you?
Your lips should never be dry or chapped. There are plenty of lip balms out there to help
keep them moist. As for the inside, you want to be sure to keep your teeth and gums clean (yes,
brush after each meal, just like the toothpaste tubes say.) Don’t forget to brush your tongue, as
this is where a great deal of bacteria develops. Flossing is also a necessity, not an option. Use
mouthwash regularly, and if you have a problem with bad-breath, you may want to discuss it
with a dentist. There is nothing more unattractive to a woman than having to tolerate foul breath.
Make sure you visit a dentist every six months for a cleaning.
If you are a coffee or tea drinker, you should be sure to make sure your teeth are not
discolored or stained. There are plenty of off-the-shelf bleaching products available that work
very well, as well as treatments available from your dentist.
Skin
Your skin is the largest organ in your body, and is the part you’re most concerned about
getting her in contact with. Be sure to do a once-over on your body to ensure that you aren’t too
rugged for her. You don’t have to make your skin like velvet, but hard, cracked, callused skin is
not attractive to a woman. You want her to want to get close to you, and that means taking care
of areas you may not have considered before. Use lotion on your hands and any other areas to
get your skin soft enough to handle. If you have any blemishes or acne, there are many
products on the market that will help you keep the breakouts to a minimum, and help you make
them a little less noticeable.
Remember that women are keenly sensitive to touch, and look forward to touching men
they’re interested in.
Sounds and Smells
I didn’t want to have to make a point of this area of hygiene, but it’s very important that
you be aware of more than just the visual and tactile parts of your appearance. Here are just a
few of the more unattractive sounds men make that decrease a woman’s attraction to them:
- Snorting and other assorted throat noises. Keep these to a minimum, since they are
easily controlled. Phlegm noises of any kind are repulsive to women.
- Burping. Do not burp, not even at the most laid back party. If you have a need to
release the pressure, excuse yourself and do it somewhere out of earshot.
- Farting. Gosh, I wish I didn’t have to say this, but please don’t fart, guys. If you have
a problem with gas, review your diet and consider a medicinal supplement to help
you with your digestion.
- Foot Odor: Change your socks frequently, and use the shoe deodorizers available.
- Breath: As above, please do check your breath on occasion. If you lick your skin and
smell your saliva, you’ve got a good idea as to whether your breath is good or bad.
Carry breath mints (not gum) to use when needed.
The other nasty turn-off for women is the big B.O. Body odor is unattractive to all but the
women you might date in the underdeveloped countries of the world. Some men just don’t
shower enough, and some men can’t shower enough. Deodorant is a requirement for your
armpits. You should use antiperspirants if sweating is an issue for you. Do not try to cover up
your lack of cleanliness with a “gypsy bath,” meaning that you don’t use cologne or after-shave
to cover up your stinky body or clothes. I once worked with a guy who applied Brut to his clothes
each morning and smelled like he’d fallen out of a rotting pig carcass. I gently brought his
hygiene situation to his attention, but it is often a rare event that someone will tell you about it.
The topic is so uncomfortable, in fact, that many people would never tell you when your body
odor is strong, so you’ll have to monitor this closely yourself.
If you are going to use cologne or after-shave, be sure to use a high-quality scent. Try to
find something that suits you and is different enough to stand out. Most men use some variety of
the Calvin Klein brand, but there are many that are unique and appealing. Apply just enough to
give off a slight scent. This may take some trial and error. You want her to have to get nice and
close to you to smell your cologne, not running to get away from it.
Shoes and Clothes
Women pay attention to shoes. Let me repeat that: Women will notice your shoes. They
notice their own, and they notice yours. You don’t have to spend a fortune to get good shoes,
but you will have to pay more than $15 at the local Payless. Go to a discount store that sells
many of the brand names on sale. You can get a long-lasting pair of shoes for around $50 or so,
and they will do more to enhance your image than those ragged Hush Puppies you’ve had since
you were a kid. Keep your shoes shined and in good condition and you’ll avoid raising any red
flags with her. Keep your socks in good shape (no holes or tears) and matching. Memorize the
golden rules: Socks match your pant color, not the shoes, and the belt matches the shoes.
When it comes to clothes, keep it simple – especially if you don’t have any
understanding of fashion. You don’t have to be Mr. Armani to look decent, especially if you stick
to the basics. Remember: black is always good, just not too much or you’ll look like Johnny
Cash. Black makes you look slim, it’s always in, it’s hard to stain, and it goes with most
everything. Go with subdued colors until you know which ones work for you. Again, the best
thing you can do is to find a woman to go shopping with you and help you pick out some
clothes, or get the sales gal to help you find a good look. (And don’t forget to get her phone
number, while you’re at it.)
Another part of your overall fashion appearance is to keep your lines clean. This means
that, aside from choosing a good fit from your clothes, you should keep the creases and
contours of your clothes smooth so that they look as if they fit well. Don’t carry large objects
(anything noticeable) in your pockets, like your cell phone, a pager, a Palm Pilot, whatever geek
toys you usually keep. Also, watch out for the Batman Syndrome, where you end up carrying all
this junk on your utility belt. Keep it all out of sight whenever possible. Women are not
impressed with or attracted to geeky-ness as much as you might think.
Take a good long look at that lumpy wallet you’ve been carrying around since the eighth
grade – you know, the one with the worn circle from where you keep that condom stowed away.
Traditional wallets, I must inform you, are for old married guys. Most men are carrying around
pictures, business cards, credit cards, driver’s license, fortunes from Chinese meals gone-by,
change, a few George Washingtons, and that worn out backup rubber. This amounts to about
three inches of lump in your ass pocket. Not attractive. My recommendation is to ditch your
beat-up lambskin tri-fold for a sleek billfold that holds only the essentials, and keep it in a front
jacket pocket where possible. I now carry one that holds my license in a see-through window, a
few credit cards, and a clip for money.
If you can afford to, use a dry cleaner where possible to handle your nicer clothes. An
added bonus is that when they launder your shirts, they’ll press them. I know how much guys
(and gals) hate to iron, and you can’t afford to run around looking like you fished that shirt from
the bottom of your laundry basket. Dry cleaners also provide repair services, so use them to reattach
buttons, fix seams, etc.
Another tip for clothing care is to use only a small amount of detergent when you wash.
The smell of too much soap can be overwhelming. Also, the over-use of soaps will fade and
wear your clothes out early.
I have an easy formula for clothes that should help you build a simple, versatile, and
effective wardrobe:
Buy one pair of pants in navy blue, olive, tan, charcoal, and black. (5 Total)
Buy one black, one light or medium blue, and one shirt of a color that works for you. Buy
two white, long-sleeve dress shirts (Oxford pinpoint, button-down collar). (5 Total) Increase your
shirts as needed. These colors should give you a great deal of combining options. When you
can afford it, a sport coat or two should be added in to the mix, but in the meantime, a simple
black jacket will suffice.
Physical Fitness
You don’t have to have a muscle-bound body off of the latest issue of “Muscle-Boy” to
be appealing to a woman. (In fact, more women are turned off by heavily muscled physiques
than are turned on.) They prefer sleek and fit men, not Arnold-wannabes.
Every man should exercise regularly each week and demonstrate some care as to his
eating habits. I recommend a subscription to Men’s Health or a similar fitness magazine that
addresses all areas of health, from exercise to diet. A man with a “spare tire” around his middle
is not going to impress a woman. If you’re severely overweight, you will not only be limiting your
successes with women, but limiting your lifespan as well.
I’m not here to preach good health to you. However, your physical fitness level is a very
obvious indicator of your attitude toward life and yourself, and women look to this to figure out
how you’ll treat them.
Smoking
This is one that I left off the appearance list, but should be reflected upon. We live in a
time where most everyone within reach of a newspaper is now aware of the detrimental affects
of smoking. If you decide to smoke, that’s your choice, but keep in mind that our social attitude
is shifting with respect to where and when you smoke. In California, for instance, you are no
longer able to smoke indoors in public places, and New York is planning a ban on smoking in
restaurants. Others are sure to follow.
The Truth of the matter is that if you do smoke, you will be effectively limiting your pool
of available women drastically. A non-smoking man will appeal to almost any woman, whereas
a smoking man will be mostly attractive to smoking women. It’s your decision in the long run,
both for your health and your dating flexibility.
Posture and Presentation
There are many behavioral cues you can use to demonstrate self-confidence, style, and
sophistication. One of the examples we cited previously is James Bond. Watch Sean Connery
as he walks and moves in the older movies, or Pierce Brosnan most recently. They demonstrate
how a self-confident and self-disciplined man looks and moves.
- Speak slowly and insert deliberate pauses: Don’t hurry your sentences along,
inserting uhms and uhs everywhere. Take your time. You won’t seem stupid; you’ll
seem thoughtful and mysterious. Pause between things you want to carry more
emphasis. It’s not always what you say that’s important; it’s how you say it.
- Walk with swagger and style: The way you move is a direct reflection of your
personality. If you walk hunched over, avoiding people’s eyes, you appear unsure
and insecure. You want to stand up straight, chest out, and with a quick but sure
pace. Look like you’ve got someplace to be.
- Use your hands and body as poetry: The way you gesture and move your body in
general should be very loose and circular. Don’t move in jerky motions, like a
nervous squirrel. When you reach for things, you move carefully and deliberately.
Imagine that you have to act out a poem with your motions. Don’t overdo this and
become a ballet dancer for her, just make your movements fluid and relaxed.
- Stand Proud: Many men don’t have a very secure looking pose when they’re just
standing. They tend to cross their arms most of the time, which everyone knows is
closed body language. You should find a way to stand that suits you, yet feels
attractive. As corny as they seem, the poses many men make on the covers of
catalogs or GQ magazine are actually very confident and statuesque. Your ability to
look calm and confident when standing still is important.
- SMILE: Practice your smile in front of a mirror if you have to, but develop your ability
to show a good smile. This one behavior says that you have a core of happiness
more than anything else, and it will rub off on her. Smiling also says you’re secure
with yourself, and you have a sense of humor.
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